tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post1152858390131833627..comments2023-04-14T05:13:46.127-04:00Comments on An ACOD's World: The Gray Divorce RevolutionAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-85079538332506165582012-10-13T18:05:08.171-04:002012-10-13T18:05:08.171-04:00I am 40 year marriage veteran and I regretfully fi...I am 40 year marriage veteran and I regretfully find myself in this situation. I recently discovered for the last 10 years that my spouse has depleted our retirement fund to the tune of $176,000......when confronted with the situation, he just said that it is gone....I was busy taking care of the marriage, the house, the kids, working full time and more while he was stashing our money.....Bottom line is that he has planned his retirement, while I am left holding the bag.....I was blindsided......and now I am poor and alone....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-24109501165013216792012-09-23T15:13:34.586-04:002012-09-23T15:13:34.586-04:00Rachel and Paige -- thanks so much for your commen...Rachel and Paige -- thanks so much for your comments. Sorry to hear you both are going through the same thing, but glad you can relate.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-34622030572821551502012-07-24T00:55:29.031-04:002012-07-24T00:55:29.031-04:00i think you're asking the right questions. My...i think you're asking the right questions. My parents are divorcing after over 40 years of marriage (i've been married for 16) & it has been a terrible blow... Love your blog :)paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11879573441359515525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-74554306436105389932012-07-14T18:21:34.054-04:002012-07-14T18:21:34.054-04:00I also completely agree that this is not ok. I ha...I also completely agree that this is not ok. I have been married 10 years now, my parents are just divorcing after 40 years of marriage. OK I haven't got the length of experience that they have but just the fact of their divorce is causing me to experience a whole new range of things in my own marriage. My husband and I don't agree on everything but I expect to have to work at compromising. From what I can gather one of my parents (based on what that parent has themselves said to me), doesn't seem to understand the idea of compromise and is only interested in their own personal happiness.<br /><br />It shocks me that this parent is prepared to walk away the sacredness of marriage after all this time.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-28955903382480345432012-07-12T21:30:29.716-04:002012-07-12T21:30:29.716-04:00Thanks, Serenity! I'm glad we're out there...Thanks, Serenity! I'm glad we're out there speaking about it, even if it is painful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-89969613356670812792012-07-12T11:43:04.117-04:002012-07-12T11:43:04.117-04:00I completely agree that we should be uneasy about ...I completely agree that we should be uneasy about a trend in this area of life!! As a once-in-a-while unusual situation, maybe , but as a trend , NO!<br /><br />I am in my 40's and have through my blog http://acodtimeforserenity.blogspot.com <br />unfortunately "met" others like me, who were in their 40s and even 50's when their parents divorced. It is painful no matter what age you and and no matter what the circumstances I have concluded.<br /><br />Let's keep the discussion going and find ways to challenge this disturbing trend! <br />thanks for your contribution to it!Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01758325202841160603noreply@blogger.com