tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post5858613517367334003..comments2023-04-14T05:13:46.127-04:00Comments on An ACOD's World: When Parents Become StrangersAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-29950185476240639842013-10-07T19:30:02.538-04:002013-10-07T19:30:02.538-04:00So sorry I haven't responded, Anonymous. I'...So sorry I haven't responded, Anonymous. I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through and I do hope this blog will bring you some comfort. One of the biggest things I felt when my parents divorced was anger over the fact that there would be new people in their lives. i was 24 years old...I had gotten used to the people in my life. I didn't want to have to adjust. So tough and so strange. Very much an out of body experience. Hang in there and if you ever need to chat further, email me at acod16@gmail.com. Thinking about starting to blog again!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-20435369682897970002013-06-15T19:32:13.801-04:002013-06-15T19:32:13.801-04:00My parents just told me and my two siblings about ...My parents just told me and my two siblings about their divorce this afternoon. Though I've known their marriage was over for years, I, too, was just used to them co-existing. As selfish as it seems, I'm not really ready for that to be over, despite how unhappy they both were. My hope is that they both just take lots of time to adjust and let me adjust. I can't really deal with new people in either of their lives right now. It's the strangest feeling to think that really haven't been involved in each other's lives for a while and will only further distance themselves. <br />Thank you for this blog. I'm sure it will continue to comfort me in the months to come. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-13282259664547990462012-01-31T16:05:59.995-05:002012-01-31T16:05:59.995-05:00Strangers. I guess the definition is someone who d...Strangers. I guess the definition is someone who doesn't know another person. There is no relationship...a stranger is not even a acquaintance. This has become true in many ways in my family. My parents , who shared over 40 years of life, now do not know the daily or monthly activities of each other. People who know both of them like to tell them things about each others lives, but they haven't talked or been in the same room for years.<br /><br />I don't dream of them together anymore, but I used to. Once in a while I will go to a strange place subconsciously, where I will almost FEEL like it is all the same as it used to be, that they are a unit , involved in my life with much enjoyment and comfort in the relationships as used to be. It lasts just for a few minutes , but I love it....even if it is just a fantasy. <br /><br />I realize my father was a stranger while he lived with my mother and interacted with me. I did not know who he really was as he carried on an affair in a seperate life. <br /><br />It is sad to say parents or spouses are strangers, but I suppose a stranger is someone you are not sure if you can trust. Either this is the case before you trust them, or after their trust has been broken.Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01758325202841160603noreply@blogger.com