tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post95398826431168151..comments2023-04-14T05:13:46.127-04:00Comments on An ACOD's World: What Page Are You On?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10450207612678036243noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5952193241386833473.post-18423776655458520982012-04-12T09:49:01.938-04:002012-04-12T09:49:01.938-04:00wow..this is timely. All the siblings have handled...wow..this is timely. All the siblings have handled my parents divorce differently with varying levels of contact with our father.<br />Just recently something was shared by one sibling to another sibling and it was intended to be kept a secret from one parent. That may have been an issue in the past when our parents were still married, but especially now, it puts people in the middle of relationships that already feel a loss of trust now. This caused a discussion with one sibling wanting to set up more boundaries and the other wanting things to be like they used to , where sharing information with trust was common. I don't know if this makes sense, but the bottom line is that the divorce has damaged the sibling relationships as well because of different choices of loyalties to parents. Many adult children of divorce agree that we would like to remain "neutral" to both parents , and while we love them both, we may not be able to remain "neutral" as adult children.<br />When loyalties among siblings differ , then it hampers conversation and openness among them too...... another sad consequence we acods have to deal with. Not easy or something I am happy about!!!Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01758325202841160603noreply@blogger.com