Friday, March 18, 2011

A Crash Course in Confidence

Have any of you other ACOD's noticed a decrease in your level of confidence since your parents' divorce?

I have.

I'm typically a pretty confident person who has somewhat decent social skills and has experienced a good amount of success. I've done well in school, gotten a good job, and generally feel pretty well established and secure. That is, until my parents swept away the rug from underneath me.

Now, I struggle with confidence alot. I feel insecure over things I wouldn't normally feel insecure over. I'm hoping this is just a phase and that as I move through my grief, my confidence will return. It's just so hard not having your parents together as one unit in your life. It makes life seem ten times harder and quite honestly, I feel like I'm climbing a giant mountain most days. Everything seems like a struggle and I'm just wondering when things will get easier. There are many days where I feel like I am doing well. But then there are those days that make me question everything I'm doing and question whether I will ever have a somewhat normal life again.

Anyone else feel like this? If so, I would love it if you shared your thoughts (either anonymously or not). Or you can always email me at Remember: you're not alone. It sounds cliche, but it's true. And sometimes that's the only thing we need to hear.


Vanessa said...

Yeah, absolutely. I've been thinking about this subject a bunch this week. I realized that I need to make a formal apology to some people, because since my insecurity has inflated, I've glommed onto the thing I do feel the most confident about, which is parenting my kids. I've turned into a braggy, know-it-all mom and I NEVER meant to be that person. But acting like that must help me feel less at sea in some sense. I'm sure if I weren't a parent there would be something else I'd try to use in the same capacity. It's not pretty.

Caz said...

I know I don't completely understand how you feel, but I do think this makes sense. I have every confidence in you, though - you will make it through this. You're not alone.

MVroom said...

Thanks for commenting, all! :)


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