I got promoted yesterday! It's extremely exciting, but even more so given everything that's occurred over the last year. This promotion doesn't just represent me doing well at work: it represents me succeeding in my life despite a difficult, at times traumatic, situation.
I'm amazed I've been able to succeed at something when I've felt like I wasn't able to handle anything that hit me this year. I've felt mostly weak this year, but I guess I'm much stronger than I realized. When I became aware of the severity of my parents' problems and the fact that a divorce was impending, I literally had the breath taken out of me. My first thought was: "my life is over." I truly thought I would not be able to continue living a life in which my parents were no longer together.
Since then, I've realized I can. The journey is far from over (the divorce isn't even official yet), but I know I will be okay. I'll have bad days and will have to navigate through difficult situations for the rest of my life, but I know I'll have good moments too. I can still accomplish great things at work and in my personal life. My parents' life together may be over, but my life is far from over.
I hope you all are encouraged by this post, no matter where you are in the process of your parents' separation or divorce. It's been a rough year for me, but I do believe things are starting to look up. Or maybe I'm changing and learning to adapt to a situation which I have no control over. Maybe it's both.
Wherever you are, whatever you're dealing with, remember that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Remember to live your life and not your parents'. Pursue your passions and don't beat yourself up for having hard days or feeling sad. It's all part of the process.
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