Two very scary words. But that's exactly where my husband and I are at right now.
Are we having serious problems? Are we fighting constantly? No and no. But we've had quite a rough year and I believe it's important to be proactive.
So we're going to begin going to counseling. As you all know, I've been going by myself. Now I think it's time for my husband to go with me. He's been through alot this year too and sometimes I forget that. Being my support has been hard on him. He loves being there for me, but it's still difficult.
It was hard to admit that we're going to start counseling. I mean, it's only been a year since we've been married. At first, I felt like a failure. But then a dear friend told me (you know who you are) that there's no shame in counseling. The people that avoid it are the ones that experience the problems. And I'll do anything I can to avoid being in the place my parents are at right now.
Some of you may be wondering why I've chosen to share something so personal on this blog. I'm sharing it because I know the stigma associated with counseling and I hope to break it. You don't have to be having problems to get counseling. Everyone needs counseling at some point in their lives (even those who won't admit it). I hope that by sharing my story I may inspire someone considering counseling to go for it, whether you're married or not. It's an investment in your future. And after what all of us ACOD's have been through, it'd be nice to feel normal wouldn't it?
If you're thinking about counseling and want to talk more about it offline, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.